tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5054933741560126677.post4978900144167533352..comments2023-10-09T14:33:15.856+01:00Comments on Moving on to the next plan: Wondering...Hope Springshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16380949423334441581noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5054933741560126677.post-8169714422120737912009-11-01T08:05:20.470+00:002009-11-01T08:05:20.470+00:00Thank you so much for all your thoughtful comments...Thank you so much for all your thoughtful comments. You're right about two things - I can't make any firm decisions about anything right now, and it takes a lot of courage to decide to give up on that dream. My first instinct was to try again as soon as possible, but doubts have crept in since then.<br /><br />I'm still not sure whether I SHOULD be carrying on, and at the moment I find it hard to imagine where I'll get the strength from to go through all this again. But in my heart of hearts, I know I'm not ready to give up yet, and that if Mr No Nonsense tells me he thinks there's a chance if we have another go, I wouldn't be able to say no.<br /><br />Right now, I think three is probably our magic number, and if it doesn't happen in three attempts we'll stop - but I don't think it's something you can definitely plan for.<br /><br />Oh for a crystal ball...Hope Springshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16380949423334441581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5054933741560126677.post-84581556893785970462009-11-01T01:22:03.701+00:002009-11-01T01:22:03.701+00:00Sonja put it very well in saying that by letting y...Sonja put it very well in saying that by letting your heart heal a bit, it may then be open to some answers...<br /><br />Keeping hope alive is what pushes me through this nightmare. I have to believe that there is a light at the end of this hellish tunnel, and I am determined to find it. We hope and pray that the light is a beautiful baby to call our own, but I have accepted that this may not be. The light could very well be something else entirely, but we do not know what it is until we reach it. We have to keep moving, we have to keep breathing, taking it all one step at a time... <br /><br />I hope that once you reach your light (because it is there!), you find some peace...jlynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00976092831023288182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5054933741560126677.post-68258713862290589622009-11-01T00:00:55.892+00:002009-11-01T00:00:55.892+00:00Deciding when to stop is such a hard decision. I ...Deciding when to stop is such a hard decision. I agree with egghunt that sometimes I think the ones who can actually MAKE the decision to stop have more strength than I do. And you're right, if there isn't a baby at the end then all of this is worth nothing. It's just wasted money, emotions, exhaustion, and physical toll. I think maybe the answer comes when we are satisfied that we have done all we can do to try and fulfill our dream of being parents. And "all we can do" will be very different depending on the couple and their particular life situation.<br /><br />Take some time to think it over and pray about it. Let your body and heart heal from this last IVF. Then, when you have some peace, maybe the answer will come into your heart.<br /><br />Praying for you!quadmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17254199098599230245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5054933741560126677.post-48970964747147931752009-10-31T21:29:16.378+00:002009-10-31T21:29:16.378+00:00It's hard to know if it is worthwhile carrying...It's hard to know if it is worthwhile carrying on the TTC journey as there are absolutely no guarantees. How many other things in life do you pay HUGE amounts of money for with the high chance you'll get nothing in return? But the way I look at it is if you have any hope left in you then you're not ready to give up. You have to weigh up the hope vs the hopelessness and figure out what one comes up the winner. For me, even though I know IF is the single worst thing i've ever had to deal with, I cannot give up, I still believe that we will get there in the end. There are always other options or drugs or protocols to try and while I still have those options open to me I just can't give up. But thats just me, and I know of other women who have happily made peace with the fact that thier TTC journey is over. I admire them for their decisiveness, and sometimes think it takes a lot more guts to stop riding this rollercoaster than it does to stay on it. Good luck Hope Springs, the right answer will make its way to you in its own time. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5054933741560126677.post-72164365295639664422009-10-31T19:24:29.520+00:002009-10-31T19:24:29.520+00:00Such a difficult decision to try to make when the ...Such a difficult decision to try to make when the process to get pregnant is also so difficult. I feel for you. Give it time and the you will know what the right decision is for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com