A couple of weeks after we got back from our honeymoon, DH did some little job around the house and I thanked him for doing it.
"Not at all," he replied. "I like helping my wife."
He was a bit taken aback when I immediately responded, "Actually, you're not helping me."
I then had to explain: "You're not helping me, because it's not my job. Doing your fair share of the chores is called pulling your weight."
It's something that's important to me. DH and I both work full time, my job is more demanding than his, and running the household is not uniquely my job.
DH has learnt his lesson well. I still do almost all the cooking, but he does almost all the washing-up. He's also learnt to tidy up after himself a lot better - he usually cleans out the washbasin after he's shaved, he picks up his own towels and hangs them up neatly - baby steps, but a huge improvement on the way he handled things when we were first married.
And the other thing that I think we're good at is not taking each other for granted. We do remember to thank each other for doing the laundry, or the recycling, or cleaning the bathroom - not every time, but often enough to show that we still appreciate each other's efforts. I read an article a couple of weeks ago which said that showing appreciation for each other is much more important in maintaining a relationship than constantly repeating "I love you" or making grand gestures every once in a while, and I think that's true - there's nothing worse than being taken for granted.
I thought of this when he was leaving the house on Saturday morning with two huge sacks of rubbish to go down to the recycling centre. As he left, I said, "Thank you for taking that."
And he gave his cheery smile and said, "Just pulling my weight!"