Friday, 18 June 2010


I wasn't sure whether to blog about this, but it's a story that I would have loved to hear a couple of years ago.

When we married, DH and I were both virgins. It took us a few days to figure out how to get that thing to go in there, and once we did, we found that we had another little problem. I did a bit of googling when I got back home, and discovered that there was a name for it - delayed ejaculation. Subsequent reading indicated that it was actually more like situational anejaculation.

This meant that our TTC was always a bit more mechanical and a bit less romantic than one might have hoped - we tried various methods of DIY artificial insemination over the first several months of our marriage before eventually going to the clinic last July. When Mr No Nonsense asked us if we had any problems, we told him about it, and his immediate and blunt reply was, "Well, it wouldn't have worked anyway, because you don't have enough sperm."

Since then, of course, DH's sperm have improved hugely thanks to the regime we've been on - but we still had the basic problem with getting them anywhere near my (elderly) eggs.

And so we come to the big news - last Monday, for the first time ever, and after more than two years of trying, DH successfully finished the job. And a week later, he did it again, proving that it wasn't just a one-off fluke.

This is a hugely big deal for us - it means that, however slim the chances of success, we finally get a chance to TTC like normal people. We still have all our other issues, but we finally have an element of hope that we never had before.

So if anyone stumbles across this who is in the same situation I was a couple of years ago, I have this to say - it can be hugely upsetting and frustrating, but if you stay calm, try not to let it become an issue between you, and persevere, it can eventually come right even after you've resigned yourself to it never happening.


  1. brilliant stuff! so pleased for you both!

  2. That's great news! I can understand you being excited about it! Coco x

  3. I'm so happy for you! I feel like your excitement is bubbling off the page. Being given that chance to conceive naturally, however small, is something that I think gives you hope and some level of control. It means that even if a cycle is cancelled or postponed, you still can DO something to increase your odds of conception.

    I also think it's really great that you decided to post about this, especially because one day someone else might stumble across this and it could help ease their worries.

    I'm so happy for you!

  4. We have the same issue but haven't been successful in crossing that hurdle yet! So awesome and excited for you! :-)

  5. Yay! I'm glad you found a solution for this!

  6. Welcome back Hope Springs, sounds like you had a nice time away.
    As for your excitement, well that is completely justified!!! How amazing that you've had such great improvements in this area. I agree with Sonja, good on you for posting about this as I'm sure there are many other couples out there scratching their heads and madly trying to google a solution. xxx

  7. Since getting my sneak preview of the exciting news over the phone, I haven't stopped grinning in delight for you guys :D Sending you huge huge love and hugs and thoughts honey XXXXXXXXXXX and some kisses for DH too from his co-godparent XXXXXXX

  8. thats wonderful, I am so happy for you guys, and thanks for being so open and honest. I guess many of us deal with different problems in the bedroom, and since they are never discussed we can feel so alone. So that really helped me.
    I am sending a prayer your way for a pregnancy in your next IVF. Also, I feel happy for you about your redundancy. Maybe it is the way things are meant to be? So you have some time to concentrate on you seem such a caring, giving person and I know that can take so much out of a - new reader, australia)

  9. Fantastic to have made progress in that arena. It would be extremely frustrating to not really have the option of trying traditionally, so to have that new option available...excellent! And I imagine it lifts a great weight off of DH's shoulders as well.