Wednesday, 28 October 2009

I cracked

I did it - I peed on a stick. Today is 12 DP2DT, or 14 DPO. I've never had a luteal phase longer than 14 days.

You've never seen anything so white and pristine as that results window. There was no point twisting and turning it, holding it closer to the window or holding it under a lamp. It was blank, empty, white as the driven snow.

I'm OK about it at the moment. I just felt numb as I sat there watching the control line get darker and the test window get whiter in comparison. I did all my crying on Monday, and in my heart of hearts I knew that the little bit of hope I had was in vain. Like I said, I know my body - even when it's pumped full of crap that gives me symptoms I've never had before.

For the record, and because I couldn't find anything like this when I was frantically googling over the last few days, here are the symptoms I've had which I can now put down to the Cyclogest and possibly also to the impending arrival of AF:

  • Night sweats starting pretty much as soon as I started the Cyclogest (that should have been a clue, I suppose)
  • Temperatures higher than I've ever had before, remaining high past my usual AF day but with occasional dips
  • Nausea, particularly when I wake up during the night
  • Unusual hunger patterns - feeling light-headed and shaky if I hadn't eaten for a few hours and needing to eat NOW
  • Smell and taste aversions - things that I usually enjoy smelling or tasting weird
  • Cramps and pulling feelings in my lower abdomen
  • Sore boobs - though the soreness diminished after about 8 DPT/10 DPO
  • Very light brown spotting from 8 DPT/10 DPO onwards (still going on this morning)
  • Delayed AF
  • Frequent urination - much more than I think was justified by the extra amount I was drinking
  • Extreme exhaustion - I can't stay up past about 9:00, and would be happy to go to bed at 7. I also have a huge energy dip in the middle of the afternoon, when all I want to do is curl up in a ball and go to sleep
  • Mood swings and crying much more easily than I usually do

So, there you have it. I'll test again on Friday so that I can call the clinic and tell them it's all over, and we'll see where we go from there.

My new hope is that the Cyclogest prevents my AF from turning up in full flow until I stop taking it. If AF shows up this weekend or later and the next cycle is at least 26 days (last month it was only 24 days, so that's not guaranteed), there's a chance I could fit in another cycle in late November/early December around my work. I just need to be able to guarantee that egg collection wouldn't be on or before the training day that I'm organising at work for 4 December, because I can't get out of that.

The positives that have come out of this cycle are that because we got as far as we did, got a decent number of eggs and had two embryos to transfer, hopefully the clinic will be willing to give us another try. It's only a couple of months since I was in the depths of despair, thinking that we wouldn't even be given the chance to start the treatment. To have got as far as we did is already a bit of a miracle.

I'm hoping we'll get an even bigger miracle next time, but I'll never forget Rucksack, Ray-Ray and little Viennetta, who gave me hope and made me believe that I might still be a mother one day.


  1. You will get that miracle ! Im sure of it . There is a baby meant for you somewhere . Its just taking a little while to find him/her.

    I dont know you personally but I know from "talking to you" that you will be an absolute wonderful mother , and God will make your dreams come true somehow/someday .

  2. I hope and pray that you wll have a successful cycle. You will be a mother one day (hopefully soon)!!

  3. I am so sorry it was a BFN. I know what you mean about those "white as snow" pregnancy tests. DH has had to yank me off the bathroom counter where I have literally stood up and pressed the stick up to the overhead lights to try and search for that extra line. I am glad you're doing a bit better about it, and I really, really hope you get to try again this year. The good thing about your situation is you probably don't have any leftover cysts, so you could start right away without having a break cycle.

    Your response seemed really great, so I would bet they'd let you do another round at the clinic. I am crossing all my fingers and toes that they do. You have been such a source of strength and amazing information about IVF for me this past month, even with all you've been through. I am so thankful to have you as a blogging friend. =)

    You're still in my prayers!

  4. Oh, I don't know what to say. I was really hoping that the second line would come through in the end for you. All you can do is pick yourself up and keep going, and that is something that you seem to be doing really well. I admire your positivity and I'm sure the clinic will fit you in again as you proved to have a good response this time round. Sending you a cyber hug, hope you can give rucksack & ray-ray a good send off. hugs

  5. Oh, I feel especially awful. I am so sorry that this cycle didn't work out for you. My heart hurts for you...but you are handling this so amazingly well. I'll start cheering for the next cycle right this very second. :)

  6. LDOM, I am so very sorry sweetheart. Thinking of you at this very hard time. Loving your positive attitude though xxxx